INTIMACY & SEX THERAPY
Serving Kitchener-Waterloo, Milton, Oakville, London, and the surrounding areas, Anchoridge Counselling wants to support you with any issues you have with your sexuality.
Are you stuck in a sexless relationship? Do you and your partner have mismatched sexual desires? Do you not feel emotionally connected anymore? Or maybe you want to spice up your love life, but your partner is not interested. Sexuality is a journey of exploration and an opportunity to connect with yourself and others. We embrace the belief that sexuality is constantly evolving and developing, and it is a meaningful part of our identity.
Sex is a normal and important part of the human experience. It is influenced by biological, psychological, relationship and social factors. Despite the saturation of sexual information in mainstream media, there is a strong taboo discussing sex and sexuality openly. Even with the wide availability of sexual information
online, sexual intimacy problems are as common as ever, and effect people of all ages and stages of life.
Sex therapy involves a range of therapeutic processes and exercises which can be used to initiate, restore, and enrich both an individual’s sexuality and/or the sexual components of a relationship.
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Some people tend to shy away or feel embarrassed when talking about their sex life – especially if there is a problem involved. This is one of the reasons why someone would be resistant to go to a sex therapist – sex is a private matter and discussing sexual problems to a stranger is understandably uncomfortable.
As we all know, passions can fade over time in relationships, especially with the inclusion of other demands such as careers and families. This also includes overcoming previous negative experiences to re-discover your own positive and health sexual identity.
Sex therapy focuses on:
Affirmative and respectful, permission-based sex therapies
Orgasm or sexual pain difficulties
Pleasure
Queer and Kink issues
Monogamy and consensual non-monogamy issues
When or why should I seek help?
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Individuals and couples often encounter sexual problems and concerns at various times in their relationship and over their lifetime. Some of the problems or issues that arise include:​​
Sexual assault and trauma
Sexual Dysfunctions (ex. Vaginismus, or Dyspareunia, Erectile Dysfunction, Pre-mature ejaculation, etc)
Gender Dysphoria
Cheating and Affairs
Porn and sex addiction (or other out of control sexual behaviours)
Increasing sex and intimacy in people’s lives
Increasing understanding and acceptance of individual desires, kinks, and turn-ons
Talking about sex in a positive, judgement free, safe place
Sexual shame or guilt; feelings of inadequacy
What can I expect in session?
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Anchoridge Counselling is committed to the health and well-being of clients, in all aspects of their lives, including sexual health. We offer a positive, safe, judgement free space, and specialized counselling to help all individuals in this area.
Sex therapy helps individuals or couples identify and consider possible psychological, emotional, social or relational, and physiological factors that could be maintaining their sex and sexuality problems or concerns. It can also be questioning your gender expression, gender identity, or sexuality, navigating challenges you may be experiencing with coming out and/or transitioning.
Sometimes sexual issues can result from other physical or mental health issues. Therefore, it is not completely separate from other fields in psychotherapy. Sex therapists do not conduct any sexual contact with clients. There is a lot of discussion on emotional health, relationship and communication, debunking cultural myths, awareness of the body’s sensations and changing our (sometimes unhealthy) perceptions of self and others. Often, sexual issues also have to do with having gone through traumatic events, especially sexual trauma. It includes cognitive behavioural techniques and physical exercises or homework that clients can do on their own between sessions.
Here at Anchoridge Counselling, we want to provide you with a safe place to break the stigma around sex and learn ways to help you achieve greater sexual satisfaction as well as overall relational and emotional healing.
“The radical, all-inclusive belief that each person’s body belongs to that person.” We each get to choose how we touch and are touched."
- Emily Nagoski
AVAILABLE COUNSELLORS
Here are links to a few of our clinicians who specialize in counselling around Sex Therapy.
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LOLITA SCHMALENBERG
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