Serving Kitchener-Waterloo, Milton, Oakville, London, and the surrounding areas, Anchoridge Counselling wants to provide you with solutions for a variety of men’s issues.
“Boys don’t cry”, “Suck it up, be a man” or “man-up”. These are all statements that are too commonly used in our day-to-day perpetrating the “Macho Man”. Society’s traditional expectations, socialization and mainstream media send messages for men to be confident, strong, autonomous and dominant.
Historically, men were defined as warriors responsible for providing and protecting
their families and communities. They were also the sole bread winner in their family.
These expectations limited men as far as emotions are concerned. Expressing
feelings was seen as a sign of weakness or not being considered “masculine”.
Men are struggling as to how to thrive in the world today. The beliefs and demands
of our new modern society result in increasing stress levels and struggles with
self-worth. It is harder than ever for men to fulfill traditional roles, as being the
sole bread winner is unrealistic is today’s society
Although the stereotype is increasingly being challenged, there is still a perception
that men should be strong and unemotional. These expectations can put a lot of
pressure on men, but again they are expected to just “deal with it”. Bearing the
emotional pain seems a better idea than opening up themselves to the
stigma of seeking therapy.
Men’s issues don’t necessarily refer to issues exclusively to men, but rather, discussing issues that are prevalent amongst men who seek out help with their mental health. There is no denying that these issues manifest different in men than women, resulting in many going completely ignored and untreated. Men often perceive asking for help as shameful, or a sign of weakness.
Therapy for men’s issues is designed to be a safe space for men to express their problems and emotions. Some of the common topics men experience where they reach out for extra support include:
Anger and Aggression
Addiction (including substance, porn, gambling or internet)
Depression and Anxiety
Intimacy and Affection
Relationship and Communication Issues
Work Adjustment Issues
So how do I access support for my mental health?
At Anchoridge, we understand that it takes courage to reach out and seek counselling. Our team of therapist’s job is to help you build awareness and understanding for the underlying influences of your presenting problem so you can explore the reasons why and effectively manage and cope with your struggles. They will
assess each person individually and determine what time of customized treatment is best for the needs of each person. We use psychotherapy methods such as:
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Solution Focused Therapy
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
It is common for men to be hesitant toward seeking therapy. However, with the rapidly changing dynamics in society, it has become increasingly apparent that men can benefit from having a professional and confidential space to work through thoughts, emotions, and previous experiences. There is no stigma in seeking help, only relief from the burden you might be carrying alone.
Our therapists create an environment where men are not shunned for being vulnerable, but instead encouraged to openly share their vulnerabilities and feel empowered. Seeking help requires a tremendous amount of strength and courage. Let us provide you with a safe space to be vulnerable and work through any sort of psychological or emotional difficulties to create a positive effect on relationships, work and home life.